Decisions are a fundamental currency of human life. Let me give you some examples.
Feel exhausted at the end of the work day?
You probably made too many decisions. In fact, our brains have limited computational power and there is a finite reserve of decisions we can make in any given day. In fact, big decisions can use just as much brain power as small ones (here’s a good guide to that phenomenon).
That old debate about gender equity? It might seem like it is about wages, actually it is about equal rights to make decisions. In our society, the more money you make, the more right you have to make decisions.
A senior colleague is offering you an “opportunity” (AKA asking you do to something for them)? They are delegating decisions, either because they don’t know how, or they don’t have the time to make the decisions themselves.
“Opportunities” like organising a symposium are packed full of decisions, like what food to order, who to invite….
Struggling to find motivation to finish writing a paper or report?
That is because writing is packed full of decisions, like what words to use and where to put them. It is a major brain drain to make all these decisions, so we are inclined to put them off.
Feeling stressed about the end of your PhD approaching?
At least part of the stress is knowing that you will have some major life changes coming up, that will require lots of decisions. Like where to live, where to work and so on.
I am actually in the process of making a major life decision myself - we are looking to buy our first house.
So here are some hacks I have developed over the years that help to reduce stress and make decisions more time effective.
You can’t realise you’re stressed about decisions until you realise you’re stressed. You also need self-awareness to know what decisions are stressing you.
The best way to get self awareness is to practice mindfullness and/or mediation. Seriously. Many professional sports people consider mediation a critical part of their training.
So why not other types of professionals?
An easy way to be more mindful is to acknowledge to yourself how you are feeling. Actually say the words, “I am feeling stressed out by…” (or at least actively thinking them). Do that for a few minutes and you might learn alot about what decisions matter to you right now.
Most large institutions will also offer a free and anonymous counciling service for staff. These are useful in my experience because the counciller will help you develop tools for being more self aware.
Big decisions, like deciding where to buy or rent a house, or what job to go for are hard because they are actually composed of many small decisions.
So break them up into chunks. For instance, decide what suburb you want to be in first. Then what size house and so on.
Often decisions are hard because the outcomes are uncertain.
For instance, you are not sure where to start addressing a critique on your work (like reviews on a paper) because you are not sure of the best way to make ammends with the critic.
So break the problem into smaller parts, address the first part and then test it. Do this iteratively until you reach an adequate solution.
For instance, if a reviewer didn’t like the method you used, perhaps it was because you explained it poorly. So edit the explanation and show your edits to someone else. If it works for them, you might have solved the problem. If it doesn’t work, maybe its time to try and change the method.
Self awareness is very helpful here too. You might not realise that the uncertainty of a decision is stressing you out until you conciously analyse your feelings on the topic.
Another obvious way to deal with uncertainty in the outcome of decisions is to do more research!
For instance, we want to buy a house, but don’t want to get ripped off. So we need to research what people are paying. Simple.
Often other people are making the same decisions as you, often with better knowledge. Perhaps they are more experienced, or have had more time to learn about the decision.
So find those people and copy them.
In doing so though, we haven’t avoided a decision, we have just changed the question from ‘what to do?’, into ‘who to copy?’
So we may turned our decision about what statistical method to use on our data into a decision about determining who is an expert in analysing that type of data.
This type of decision is often much easier to solve. For instance, you can easily ask around or just look at what the experts in your field are doing.
Often in life and your career you will have to repeatedly make similar versions of the same decision.
For these things it is a good idea to develop a ‘rule of thumb’ to follow.
For instance, if you are always analysing a certain type of data, then develop a robust approach to that type of analyse you plan on reusing.
Another good example is shopping for food (supermarkets are decision overload). You might have a rule of thumb that you buy the cheapest version of a given product, or the cheapest organic version if you are into organic food and so on.
If you copy yourself enough you will develop muscle memory. This is a very time and energy effective way to make decsions.
For instance, when I surf I don’t have to think about when to paddle for a wave and when to pop up onto my feet. I just know from having done it thousands of times.
Some types of analysis also just flow out of my fingers into code without me thinking about it. This is because I have done them so many times.
The cost is that you have to invest extensive training into getting muscle memory. So it is only worthwhile doing this deliberately for decisions you think you will have to make very frequently.
When someone asks you to do something, they are asking you to make decisions for them. This will cost you, because you are effectively trading off your time and energy for making other decisions.
So if you get asked to do things a lot, learn how to say ‘no’ gracefully. This book helped me with that.
If people are delegating decisions to you, why not delegate some of your decisions to someone else?
Even better, if someone asks you to do something for them, ask for some decision making power in return.
You could ask them to do something, ask for their staff’s time to help you with something or ask for money to fund someone to help you.
Sometimes if you put off decisions, they will make themselves. Though this is not always an advisable hack.
For instance, if I put off choosing a house to buy I will never own a house. I would consider this a poor outcome.
However, if I put off answering relatively unimportant emails I often find the problems resolve themselves.
A sub-category of putting it off is sleeping on it. Particularly if you feel weary, your brain probably just needs a break from making decisions.
Short naps during the day can help stretch out your decision making powers too.
Sometimes big decisions have to be made really fast. If so, you want to pre-approve the decision with yourself.
For instance, bidding on an auction for a house is pretty huge and stressful decision.
The way to solve this one is to have already decided you want the house and what you are willing to pay.
This means searching not for the ‘one ideal house’, because you may lose many auctions. Instead you should have a category of house types that you consider ‘suitable for living’. For instance, 3 bedroom houses in a local suburb.
So long as the type of house and the price remain within your parameters then you keep bidding. If the price exceeds your pre-approved boundaries, then you stop.
My final hack is to add some fun decisions to your day. If you have a day packed full of decisions, the fun decisions will push out some of the more stressful (and hopefully useless) ones.
For instance, I usually ride a fast road bike to work. I recently bought a mountain bike so I could have the flexibility to take different off-road routes on my commute.
This added decisions to my day - which bike should I ride and which trails should I take?
When I ride home from work I often find I needlessly think about work the next day, when instead I should deal with the work decisions when I am actually in the office.
Now when I ride home I find myself thinking about what trail to ride on and what bike to take.
As a result I get home more refreshed and less stressed.